Heart Shaped Box: Abusive Relationships

This place,
The walls,
Pitch dark,
Cold light.
In vain
I wail,
My screams
With the murky
Silence collide.

Your walls
I’ve smeared
With broken nails,
Bloody scrawls,
By the pail,
Hurt of an age,
Oozing wounds,
Regret laced

Litter here,
A Graveyard this.
Broken memories,
Broken promises.
Wrecked faith,
Trampled hearts.
Carcases of failed love
Nailed up,
With rusty darts.

I call out,
I bleat.
‘Let me out’,
I plead.
Light recedes,
Hope depletes.
Pain corrodes,
To a self-effacing
Numb throb.

This cage
I was led to,
Like lamb to
The slaughter house.
Naive I was,
Entranced, bewitched
By ideals of
Bloated machismo.
Blighted hopes,
Ensnared, bared,
To the bone.

Now raw,
With the chafing soot
Of unfulfilled,
Charcoal dreams.
I crawl
Like a craven,
Lone wisp,
Forever locked
In your despotic
Heart-shaped box.


For those who know what ‘Heart Shaped Box’ by Nirvana frontman Kurt Cobain stands for, yes, this piece was inspired by this double-meaning song which he had ‘ostensibly’ written for babies with cancer, but we know who it was really written for.

For those who haven’t yet read Cobain’s poetry, please see this link and make your own assumptions about what the iconic man was trying to grieve about.

This piece was also written because of disturbing news of friends and families who have long been suffering an abusive relationship. The sad thing is, many times these people I know, fail to acknowledge that their relationship is abusive, or even if they do, they think suffering is their lot, so they must get on with life.

If you are someone who is plagued by an abusive relationship, or you know someone who is chafing in a so-called ‘relationship’, know that it will not get you anywhere.

Abuse is not just physical. Someone calling you an ‘idiot’ or ‘fat’ continuously, can also be termed as an ‘abusive relationship’, or ‘mental abuse’. Someone ostracizing or criticizing you is also a form of abuse. Someone taking your property and your earnings and not letting you have a say in it, is also abuse. There’s all kinds of abuse out there. Realise that no abuse should be borne just for the sake of love.

I hope if you know someone who’s suffering, you will help or at least advice them. People in such relationships need to be assured that they’re not alone, and that there’s hope outside of the poisonous cocoon the abusive relationship has spun around them.


Love should never hurt. Love should never make you feel like you’re losing yourself to someone else. Love should never be only about them and their needs, and never about you. Love should never make you feel like you are never good enough.

The best place to be in an abusive relationship is outside of it. 


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37 thoughts on “Heart Shaped Box: Abusive Relationships

  1. Just a different pattern of writing I came across.I dont think there would be any person who has not experienced or has not heard of abusive relations(domestic violence in a wide spectra) in their close or distant relations.Too good pradita

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  2. Powerful piece!! Abuse is abuse whether it’s verbal or physical. Enduring it just increases it.
    I am a HUGE fan of rock, pop rock and alternative rock, but still I don’t know why I refrained myself from NIRVANA. I had heard this song a while ago and I don’t know why but couldn’t connect to it maybe because of the aggressive vibe of the music. But after your post I am going to give it another try😉 Thanks for sharing honey😘

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  3. Domestic relationships prevail because the victim doesn’t oppose it. I don’t like to play blame games as to who is wrong. That won’t solve anything.
    Sometimes we are too obsessed with a relation or a person that it becomes our identity and we can’t lose it whatsoever. It’s unfortunate but it’s still present!
    Well done! Amazing. ☺️

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  4. Love should never hurt…when it starts to collapse you, something is wrong..many a times people ignore it thinking it’s love…how sad that…you described it wonderfully pradita

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