With the murky
With broken nails,
By the pail,
Hurt of an age,
A Graveyard this.
Carcases of failed love
With rusty darts.
I call out,
‘Let me out’,
To a self-effacing
I was led to,
Like lamb to
The slaughter house.
Naive I was,
By ideals of
To the bone.
With the chafing soot
Like a craven,
In your despotic
For those who know what ‘Heart Shaped Box’ by Nirvana frontman Kurt Cobain stands for, yes, this piece was inspired by this double-meaning song which he had ‘ostensibly’ written for babies with cancer, but we know who it was really written for.
For those who haven’t yet read Cobain’s poetry, please see this link and make your own assumptions about what the iconic man was trying to grieve about.
This piece was also written because of disturbing news of friends and families who have long been suffering an abusive relationship. The sad thing is, many times these people I know, fail to acknowledge that their relationship is abusive, or even if they do, they think suffering is their lot, so they must get on with life.
If you are someone who is plagued by an abusive relationship, or you know someone who is chafing in a so-called ‘relationship’, know that it will not get you anywhere.
Abuse is not just physical. Someone calling you an ‘idiot’ or ‘fat’ continuously, can also be termed as an ‘abusive relationship’, or ‘mental abuse’. Someone ostracizing or criticizing you is also a form of abuse. Someone taking your property and your earnings and not letting you have a say in it, is also abuse. There’s all kinds of abuse out there. Realise that no abuse should be borne just for the sake of love.
I hope if you know someone who’s suffering, you will help or at least advice them. People in such relationships need to be assured that they’re not alone, and that there’s hope outside of the poisonous cocoon the abusive relationship has spun around them.
Love should never hurt. Love should never make you feel like you’re losing yourself to someone else. Love should never be only about them and their needs, and never about you. Love should never make you feel like you are never good enough.
The best place to be in an abusive relationship is outside of it.
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