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When I was a young adult, I often asked my mother, who worked only a few years in her otherwise housebound life, why she did not pursue a career as a professor when she was offered the job after she got married to my father. Or I would ask her why she always waited upon my father to start with dinner. Or I would quiz her on why she did not cook things that she liked to eat more often. The answer was always the same – sacrifice; my father liked it that way.
Then there were times when I would wonder why my Father, who’s a businessman, never switched over to riskier but possibly, more rewarding business ventures; or did not take that overseas job when he could have. His answer too would be the same – sacrifice; it would have been hard on my mother and…
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Very touching. Indeed we have to sacrifice a few things for our significant others. But it must be a two way street. In a lot of relationships, there’s only one person doing all the sacrifices while the other is completely apathetic to it. I believe those kinds of relationships are very toxic and the sufferer should leave. Sorry to be so negative, got carried away a bit, but yeah, a beautiful marriage is built upon hundreds of such small sacrifices on both sides in order to achieve not a perfect but a happy family life.
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No dont apologize please. You’re absolutely right in pointing out how it’s a two street. If only one party is hindering it all of themselves while the other takes this for granted, that’s not a relationship, but drudgery. We must strive for a balance in any relationship. I read a pretty apt quote on sacrifices in marriage, that you should never give up on your love, your heart and your dignity. Thank you so much for reading 😊
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कहते है ना एक हाथ से रोटी नहीं बनती और एक हाथ से ताली भी नही बजती। बैलगाफी में जूते हुए दो बैल भी एक दूसरे की चाल से चाल मिला के चलते है तभी तालमेल से गाड़ी चलती। बस यही सिद्धान्त हर एक जगह लागू होता। सिर्फ लेना नही कुछ देना भी पड़ता रिश्ता निभाने के वास्ते
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Bilkul Sahi farmaya aapne. Har ek rishtey mein utar chadhav ki tarah aadan pradaan bhi hona chahiye. Agar Sirf ek apna kartavya nibhaye toh ise mai bewakufi kahungi,
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Bilkul Sahi farmaya aapne. Har ek rishtey mein utar chadhav ki tarah aadan pradaan bhi hona chahiye. Agar Sirf ek apna kartavya nibhaye toh ise mai bewakufi kahungi, balidan nahin. Padhne ke liye shukriya
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By coincidence, this is very relevant to me today. Thank you, and I have done a reblog.
Lee
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I’m glad my writings could be of some use to you. Thanks so much for the reblog 😊😊
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Beautiful composition…
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Thanks a lot Sir 😊
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Unfortunately true. I hope people will get to do what they want. Or as we dream- chase our dreams
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I agree Sir. Thank you for reading and commenting 😊
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Ive learnt it is always about give in.
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It is. But not always. Sometimes you must stand up for yourself too. I hope everytime you’ve given in, it’s brought you more happiness, love and respect 😊
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Well, yes and no. But at least you know youre trying and there is but some consolation in that.
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True that. At least you can’t be blamed
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Yes that’s uber satisfying.
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😊😊
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Hmm, Sacrifice is a strong word, but perhaps that is how it is in real. I always say I have not sacrificed, neither my husband .. we both changed our habits and it wasn’t by choice, it just happened 🙂
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I applaud your approach to this issue. This is how one should be in a marriage. I think the trick also lies in not overthinking whatever changes we make for others or else we start dwelling on those sacrifices. Thank you for reading Hira 🙂
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Well written article Pradita. Marriage is a constant series of adjustments from both sides. It is definitely required for a successful marriage. As long as both are doing it it is fine . But many a times in India it’s only the wife who is expected to adjust to all situations. That is unacceptable.
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Yes that’s us the case almost everywhere, I believe. That’s why I said am occasional lapse is ok, not a constant lapse. That’s just means the other spouse is taking the one for granted. Thank you so much for reading 😊
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Lovely write-up, Pradita! I love your balanced outlook!
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Thanks a lot Arv. Glad you like it 😊
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😊👍
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Sacrifice! Sacrifice!! Sacrifice!!! Have your way all the time and lose someone precious to you
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I know how bad that feels. But that what marriage is. Sometimes it works, the sacrificing, sometimes it doesn’t.
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Written so beautifully by a beautiful person 😇😇
All incidents were totally relatable and that’s all about our Indian culture .
Bhartiya Naari sab par bhari 😁
🙏🙏
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I love the last line! 🤣🤣🤣🤣 Thank you so much 😊
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