Are We Failing As Parents?

Apologies for a very long post. I have a lot to say on this topic.

If you make it to the end of this post, I must congratulate you for your patience; if you don’t, I understand.


Some of my fondest memories were created while at play. The first sand castle, the first friends, the silly games we invented and the silly rules we applied to them, the races I won, the ducks I fed at the local pond or the dragonflies and fireflies I chased after in the twilight. If it were upto me, the whole day would be playtime. I would not return home, even to eat. I was that happy in the playgrounds and the local parks that abounded in my locality.

Growing up in a city like Delhi probably helped in that regard. Every square kilometre had at least one park, and if not a park, then a small open area where people would gather (mostly elders in the community) and kids could play. They weren’t well maintained, sure, but we kids didn’t bother about that as long as we had some grass growing where we could toss a ball or chase after each other. Back then, cell phones hadn’t hijacked our lives, there weren’t even that many landlines at homes, and no cable TV, which meant that if you were at home, there was no other pastime than to venture out and mingle. The best place to do that was at the local parks. And commendably, there still are a lot many of them in the main city of Delhi. Just not that many people in those parks anymore, but I’ll get to that later.

Then I came to Pune, and even though everyone around me told me that the city was greener than Delhi, I was confused about where I could go for a simple thing like taking a stroll. Sure the city becomes lush green when it starts raining, but that’s only in parts of it, and you can’t take a stroll on city streets in India, believe me. As far as local parks and open areas are concerned, Pune falls woefully short in providing its people this small luxury.

In the 13 years that I’ve been in this city, I have seen hundreds of new buildings and commercial complexes sprouting up all over, some of them eating into the green cover of the city, but hardly any parks or recreational spaces coming up. The city building laws require builders of apartment complexes to designate an area as a dedicated playarea for kids, but that hardly translates to a decent play area, even in large apartment complexes. Most of the time these play areas exist only on paper, while in reality they are eventually converted into parking spaces, or dumping grounds or are kept out of bounds for kids because the garden must be maintained (like at my in-laws’ apartment complex). I was astounded to find out that kids were not allowed to play in some play or garden areas because the gardens must ‘look pretty’ all the time. Excuse me? Then where should those kids play? Out on the roads?

But it’s not as if there’s any kids to play in these illusory ‘play areas’. Another odd thing I noticed, over a period of years, was the lack of kids in the playgrounds. Is our population decreasing? Nope. Last I checked we were still the second most populated nation in the world, only a hair’s breadth away from overtaking China, with around 30% of our population below the age of 15! Then why aren’t there any kids outside in the evenings, like we used to throng our playgrounds thirty years ago? Where is that cacophony of squeals and screams enlivening a residential area, that I grew up listening to?

The more disturbing trend than the diminishing playgrounds, is the diminishing childhood of our children. 

A few weeks back a friend, who’s child is a 7 year old, came over for tea and we started talking about how kids these days seem to be involved in too many activities, aside from school. She too confessed to spending thousands in ‘exposing’ her child to as many ‘extra-curricular activities’ as possible. And she’s not the only one. I know several other parents who take their kids out for daily ‘extra-curricular classes’ – to dance, swim, to horse-riding, art classes, tennis classes, craft classes. Then there’s the dreaded tuition classes (cram schools in India are called that) where a child could spend another 2-3 hours, sometimes starting at an age as early as 8 years! My own help sends her older kid to tuition classes apart from his regular school for another 2 hours. Her reasons however, are different. She’s illiterate and can’t help her child with homework. But what about educated parents? I understand if your child needs help in High School with tougher subjects, but really, tuition classes at Grade 1 or 2? Is this not our own failure? And what are our schools teaching our kids that they need tuitions too at such an early age?

When I was in school and started falling behind in mathematics, my mother finally hired a tutor to help me with the subject, because she was unable to help me with it. That was in 9th grade. I remember being horrified, because not many kids my age needed ‘help’ from tutors outside of school. Indeed, kids of my generation have grown up feeling that you only needed tuitions if you were weak in a subject. Otherwise school was good enough for our ‘educational needs’, curricular or extra-curricular. Generally, this meant no tuitions before High school AND no extra-curricular or activity classes. Our activities were all played out on the playgrounds.

But now things have changed so much. Now tuition classes and activity classes are the norm. It’s like the minute your kid starts Primary school, he/she must start, first with activity classes, followed by tuition classes a few years later. When I used to work at a tuition centre while in college, I discovered that some of my most ambitious clients were parents of the youngest lot of kids. Like the parent of an 8 year old who, apart from the 8 + hours her son spent at school, had engaged him at our tuition centre for 2 more hours (for his homework), then would drag him off to his bi-weekly skating or chess classes, and thereafter to an hour of studies at home. Weekeneds were dedicated to art, she would tell me proudly. She used to tell me that he’s the son of so and so, he must become something to deserve being the scion of their family inheritance and some such crap! I used to wonder when the child got the time to be a child!!

Are we failing as parents by not devoting our own time to educate them? Or are we just afraid that our kids will lack the ability to cope up with these competitive times if they aren’t pushed into such activities?

Coming back to the playgrounds, are our play areas dwindling in numbers because there’s no more kids to use them; or are our kids being pushed into extra-curricular activities because we feel that playtime is not sufficient to prepare them for the growing competition in the world?

Who’s fault is it that we don’t have playgrounds and parks anymore in our burgeoning concrete jungles? Is it the fault of those capitalising builders who want to eat up every single square inch of earth to make a mall or a residential complex atop of it; or is it our mistake for not raising a voice over the dwindling number of open areas meant for public recreation in our cities?

I think it’s ours… because where we can cry hoarse about losing a square inch of space to the builder when we purchase a flat, why are we not kicking up a storm over losing out on parks? Why are we not telling our governments that it’s not a mall or a temple, or a low income tenement area that we want on public land, but a green open space that provides us space to mingle, and gives our kids the opportunity to be kids? I feel why these public recreational spaces are being pushed into the background of our developmental plans is because we don’t use them anymore, as adults or even as kids. It’s a shame how physical spaces have lost to virtual spaces like Facebook and Twitter and WhatsApp to meet and greet people!

Bringing it to a more personal level, do I become a bad parent if I don’t send my child to a handful of classes, even after school (the place that should ideally be providing ALL the learning a child ever needs); or do I become a bad parent when I rob her of her childhood by imposing my ideas of ‘creative play’ on her?

Where do we draw the line between exposing our child to every gainful experience and forcing our ideas of ‘play’ on them?

And finally, must every waking hour of a child’s life be devoted to learning itself or should they get time to play and learn at their own pace?

Right now my child is only in Nursery, where she’s expected to play and do some learning on the side. And believe me, my only reason for sending her off to school was so that she could gain some friends. I have enough confidence in myself and my education to know that I can single handedly provide her enough education to prepare her for Primary School and even beyond, if I homeschooled her. But it’s the social part of her upbringing that had me concerned, which is why I started with Nursery.

I’ve mentioned before how we live in an area where there aren’t many kids her age. The 3 kids I know, are too being shipped off to activity classes after Nursery! I have been at my wit’s end to figure out ways to make my daughter socially-active. The lone parent who I had play-dates with for the sake of our kids, has also succumbed to the charms of these classes and sends her 6 year old son to swimming and dance classes, every alternate day. I don’t blame her, really I don’t, because I understand why she was forced to do this, inspite of being staunchly against sending kids to activity centres. It’s because we have no kids and no spaces for our kids to play in! I live in an area that’s otherwise green and is away from heavy traffic and concretization, but has not a single park or even an open area. Resultantly the only (older) kids I see playing in the area, play on the roads where they have to constantly make way for traffic, putting their safety at risk. The nearest park is two kilometres or more away from our place and taking my daughter there everyday means a fair bit of planning for me, unlike how it was in my time when we would just cross the road and the huge District Park and all of it’s 2 square kilometres expanse would be at our disposal.

What is a parent like me supposed to do? Let my child grow lonely or push her into classes as well, even if she eventually grows to hate them because they start to feel like school? Do I give myself the false satisfaction that I’m doing the best for my child by ‘exposing’ her to as many activities as I can cram in her limited hours, or should I tell myself that I’m a bad parent for not giving her my own time and relying on these classes instead?

I understand all of us are well meaning parents who only want the best for our children. Many of us modern day parents are working full time and can’t afford to leave their jobs, just so they can spend ‘quality time’ with their kids and families. Our jobs and the growing competition in the world means that we either plough along and devote ourselves single-mindedly towards achieving a career goal, or risk falling into mediocrity and losing out on career opportunities.

But again, who’s fault is that?

Is it not our fault that we have created an atmosphere today where we can’t help cutting each other’s throats? Is it not our fault that we don’t demand, from our employers, enough time for ourselves and our families?

Is it not our collective responsibility that we do not let ourselves be reduced to being corporate slaves, or slaves to money-mindedness, and instead aim at leading a happy, peaceful and holistic life?

I bet if the entire workforce of a nation decided one day that they should not work beyond a fixed number of hours a day, that they won’t be allowed to take work home, and that they will instead be penalised if they work late, it would not only lead to happier families but also to greater efficiency within those work hours.

The world we have brought our children into today is growing at a very fast pace and is exceedingly competitive. We lament how are kids are losing their childhoods to over exposure, primarily through screen time (though, ironically, right from Nursery our kids are exposed to educational aids played on ‘screens’). We worry that unless they join such classes, or take tuitions, and not just play in an open ground, they won’t be capable of surviving the competition.

But should we not wonder that this competition is perhaps our own creation? That we’ve robbed them of their playtime? That in our attempt at being good parents, we’re actually failures as parents?


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72 thoughts on “Are We Failing As Parents?

  1. There is too much that I can say in response to your post but let’s not stretch the point which most will simply overlook, simply because it won’t bother them.
    There is one point that came in my mind as I was reading through it, so often parents force their dreams, their ambitions on their children. And children are the most malleable clay there is. So the point simply remains this, whether you’re giving up on your child because you want them to be part of whatever trend is currently plaguing the society or because you do not want to give effort and let your kid be their own self.
    For all my lecture at the start, I did ended up making it complicated, didn’t I?

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  2. While we may debate on this issue I feel that entire system and thought process needs serious evaluation and make over. Our education system is not helping anyone except related money making institutions. That’s also how you become Jittery about kids not making it….and you start panicking and doing all that stuff.

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    • You are absolutely right in pointing that out. It starts with our schools not being able to educate our kids enough, but really what is ‘enough’ these days in terms of education? Where are we parents willing to draw a line? In our times it used to be enough if the child had good grades, knew a sport or two and participated in a few extra-curricular activities in school. That’s not the definition of ‘enough’ today. Today a parent will ant to expose their child to every conceivable experience out there, which is good, but which could also mean that you’re giving them too much exposure too soon. Somewhere its the fault of us parents as well.

      Thank you so much for reading and commenting 🙂

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  3. My mother used to spend a lot of time with me. I couldn’t spend the same amount of time with my son as I was working. I think it makes a lot of difference. Children crave for their parents’ time and attention.

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  4. Pradita, yours is the excellent viewpoint, and what you have written makes me think of my own childhood. I am 67 now, and, back in the 1950’s and 60’s, we made our own fun, and had the time to do it. We felt safe outside, and we were left to play without our time being structured. Yes, we had homework, but not a large amount, and we were lucky enough to have help and encouragement from our parents when we needed it. If we paid attention in school, and had an interest in learning, then the homework was not too burdensome. As for needing more green spaces, I think you are right in saying that, even if those spaces existed, our kids’ time is much too organized to allow them to take advantage and enjoy them. At my age, I feel powerless to do anything about this, and I see it every day in my own part of the world. A person like yourself might make a difference if you have the desire and determination. I do not know India, or what your political and social systems are like, but you have good ideas, and I am cheering you on!

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    • Lee, I can’t tell you just how happy reading your comment made me. To know that someone who belongs to a different part of the world and a different culture who has seen a different educational system i their own country, and yet understands and appreciates what I’m trying to say, means a lot to me 🙂

      I had much the same childhood as you have written about. Happy go lucky, homework after playtime and then just sleep over all your troubles. I remember my parents being devoted to my and my brother’s after school hours, especially my Mother trying very hard to help us with whatever problems we faced with homework. I hardly see that these days, and I know this because I was providing tuition classes to kids who’s parents had no time for their homeworks. It was heartbreaking to see those kids being pushed out to activity centers even when all they wanted to do was play or stay at home with their parents.

      Education today has become not just about learning, it’s become a rat-race about who will provided kids with the most ‘experiences’, whatever that means. They are just kids. Why can’t we just let them be?

      Thank you so much for taking out the time to read and appreciate this 🙂

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  5. Hi Pradita,
    Read your post all through. A very true scenario and experience is what youve penned down. Yes Pune has grown very fast and as was previously known as “Pensioner’s Paradise” today it is more of an IT city and industrial city with concrete jungles spreading out faster than an infested river with hyacinth.
    In todays scenario playing areas are used only for meetings and discussions. Children are sent for n number for extra classes and activities but does the child really need it.. does the child have an interest in pursuing those extra activities..?? Mobile phones have hampered our mobility.. outdoor games are now played virtually on mini screens.. children are engaged in daily soaps (Is it needed).
    On one hand when we want our children to have every comfort and privilege, the other hand we are taking away alot of creativity and other essential skills especially socializing, team work, building healthy arguments, tolerance towards others…etc. from them by not getting them exposed to outdoor games, activities.. their involvement with nature be it playing in the mud, climbing trees, gardening, or splashing rain water are considered risks to health.
    Education has lost its real essence. The quality of teachers and the teaching methodology is no longer the same.. i often doubt how effective is the download of content or should i say the knowledge passed down from the teacher to a set of students; which again is not less than 60-65 in a class. (isnt it unfair – to both teacher and the students).
    Every nook and corner has a new school and all are international school with sky rocketing fees.. so definitely a good business venture. Every 6 months teachers leave and go and the child is helpless because what is started is left incomplete and the next person who takes charge prefers starting a new chapter.

    actually lots to say and write… getting back to work Pradita.. but definitely a good post worth reading.
    Cheers.. have a nice day. Love to the lil one.

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    • Hey girl. I knew you’d relate to this because you’re a Mom too. You have added so many points to this post and I agree with all, especially with how fast schools are cropping up everywhere and yet there is not ONE school out there that gives holistic education to our kids. Sometimes I wonder if it’s not better to homeschool our kids because what’s the use of going to school if you have to go for additional classes too?

      I’m glad you spoke about this. How about taking this post and elaborating on it with your experience on your blog? You must have more than me because your son’s older. And I would love some insight into how primary school works these days. I shudder at the thought seeing how my friends keep lamenting about schools.

      Thanks again for reading. Love to your bundle of joy too 😊

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  6. Like I said Pradita, some very good things have been said in the post. Starting from the heading “Are We Failing As Parents?” The direct answer to that would be “NO”. Looking from the outside, Parents are doing their best for their kids, ‘pushing’ them (yes I’m using the word ‘pushing’) for this class and that class (in the name of extra-curricular activities) and eating up on what should be their play time or recreation time. But I guess, that is what today’s world demands, in order to stay in competition with other kids. Life is harsh on children nowadays and while parents CAN give some breathing space to their kids, they choose to go the other direction. The world is screwing up itself bit by bit, its all about letting the children ‘Stay Afloat’.
    While the 80’s and 90’s were more relaxing days for children (like you & me back then), nowadays being is a child is tough! Being a parent is tougher! What’s the other choice left then? ‘Stay Single, Stay Happy’
    Words from a bachelor who loves his life thus far.

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    • Well put, my friend. But obviously staying single is not everyone’s cup of tea. You have rightly pointed out how being a parent is tougher these days. But I feel the way of fixing this problem is not to give into the competitive times, but to stand up and bring back some sense into these nonsensical times. If that means keeping my child away from such classes so she can just be herself, I’ll do it.

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  7. A lucid and thought post Pradita. While it is a shame that designated open spaces for children are not available in Pune, I dont think swimming or music lessons are particularly bad. Group activities are good for children and this is their new playground. So long we as parents dont force our children to excel or fulfill our unfulfilled ambitions they would only gain from such exposures. Later as the child grows up it maybe too late to indulge in even exploring the little ones talents and interests. This is the time to identify and let the child find out what is of interest to her or him. The trick I believe is to make the situation work for you and your child – making the system change would take another generation, or two 😉

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    • Thank you for the detailed response D.

      ‘So long we as parents dont force our children to excel or fulfill our unfulfilled ambitions they would only gain from such exposures.’ This is what I feel too. Even I think that learning life skills like swimming, or basic instruction in music and art are things that will only do our kids good, but we should not forget that the child should actually enjoy them too. I feel there must definitely be that one or two odd class that a child is interested in and has a talent for, but the rest of the time he should just be allowed to enjoy himself. We should not burden our childen with too much learning.

      Also, there was a time when schools provided all these group activities and basic instructions in art, sports and other extra-curricular activities. What are our schools teaching them today that we parents feel we need to enroll our kids outside the school for the same activities? Are we giving too much time to learning by rote in the school and leaving no time for kids to be kids? This is why I have a grouse against the system today. this is what I feel we should change. There has to be a parity between learning and enjoying life, just like how we advocate a parity between work and home life. These years of careless abandon will not return for them. Why should we age them faster than they need to age?

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  8. As you told it is a competition, participating in it or not is our choice I feel. So if children are interested we can join them in extracurricular activities if not we can leave I feel. Because after getting into a profession they wont get time. I knew girls who left their dance class before arangettram after learning it for six seven years as they joined MBBS . And also some left it because of marriage. So parents and children have to decide clearly whether this is going to be useful in future or not before joining any class.

    My eldest daughter is going for classical dance from first standard. At that age she can’t decide its my unfulfilled wish to learn dance so I joined her but from her second standard she got interest in dance she don’t want to leave it at any cost and still learning she’s in 8th now. And she’s also going to keyboard class with her own interest and she wants her future to be in music. Myself and my husband is very clear to go with children’s choice.

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    • Thank you first of all, for such a detailed response to my post Subbashini. I’m glad you took the time out to give me your side of the view.

      I appreciate that you and your husband have tried to keep your children’s wishes over into perspective while letting them go for activity classes, as it should be, because it’s they who should enjoy the process, not we who would get that mental satisfaction that our kid is learning/enjoying the process.

      I’m not against all activity classes. They are good to teach our children some additional skills and develop their hobies. My grouse is that some parents engage their kids in so many activities outside of school taht the child doesnot have time to be by himself and enjoy his childhood. Like the parent of the 8 year old I’d mentioned who had engaged him in tuition classes + activity classes EVERY SINGLE DAY. I have seen that child begging his mother not to go to activity classes and just let him play with his friends downstairs. This is what I’m against, compulsive enrollment of children in activities just so the parent has the satisfaction of knowing that they are exposing the child to everything they can. This is where we need to draw the line between keeping the occupied to letting them learn at their pwn pace.

      Parents and children must decide, like you said, which classes to join from the future perspective, but Subbashini life sometimes takes you on a different path. The girls you mentioned who left dancing after 7-8 years of training, their education in dance or music or, like your daughter in abacus, it hasn’t gone to waste, is what I feel. So if life didn’t pan out the way they had planned, it does not mean that the skills they learnt there have gone to waste. They can still use them, like I’m sure your daughter can still do her calculations on an abacus, or those dancers can still dance in competitions because all it requires is for you to have a talent. Education, of any kind, never goes to waste.

      Also, I’d like to mention that specialized activity classes are ok. But there was a time when basic extra-curricular activities like mnusic, instruments, sports and art, were all given due time in school itself. I have participated in many singing and art competitions in school but never once took training outside of school for them. My school provided all the instructions we needed as students of these art forms. But today, we parents are still being charged heftily for these same extra-curricular activities, but schools have stopped paying attention to them anymore. That lone art/music/library/PT class in the time table has now been replaced by another subject, or teachers and kids both treat them as free periods. I feel as parents we should bring up these matters with schools so thaat our children do not have to look beyond schools for extra-curriculars, or maybe we should just stop paying them for it and have them reduce the school time by that much so the child can learn from somewhere else, what do you think?

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  9. We live in such competitive world where parents want to outweigh each other with all the show-off and at the end of the day, children suffer. This whole tuition thing is killing children and dunno whether you heard about a 3 year old beaten black and blue by her teacher in Pune. What are we becoming? I agree with the fair points made where schools have become factories of mass production and the lack of playing space for children. High time for authorities to come up with a framework to guide parents from less illiterate to literate ones in their quest to give good education which is not necessarily about a holistic approach.

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  10. till 7th grade my parents dint enroll me in any tutions or any activity class either, I have lived my life playing each indoor and outdoor game, and only toys I remember I asked my parents to buy were a toy train, an air gun and other small cars, but now I see kids asking for mobile phones! phone diya to baccha bighad sakta hai, aur nahi diya to dusre baccho me dumb feel karega, my nephew had to join abascus class bcz all his friends learnt it, I think abascus and tuitions are bullshit!

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    • I commend the way your parents have brought you up by only encouraging you to learn on your own. By putting our children in tuition centres very early in life we are discouraging them from finding answers and solving problems on thier own. If spoonfeeding them information is the goal then they’re better off being homeschooled from books. While I don’t think abacus is bullshit, I do however think that our over emphasis on tuitions is undermining our children’s inherent ability to learn on their own. If a child is particularly weak in a subject I ubderstand providing him help from a tutor. But why should a child be required to be helped by a tutor for something like Primary school homework? What are the parents doing? And unfortunately this isn’t a trend I’ve seen only with working class parents. I’ve seen this happen with stay at home aren’t as well who are ‘eduxatrd’ themselves. What a shame it is that they can’t even impart education to thier own kids and junior levels. What have they learnt in school?

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      • It’s not that easy Pradita. Do you think teaching comes naturally to all parents. Teaching is one of the most undermined professions, it takes skills, it takes oodles of patience, it takes copious of determination, Thankfully my wife is a teacher and she is blessed with all the above mentioned traits but at times even she finds it gruesome to get my daughter to the study table. Yes parents are responsible but taking them on this guilt trip is certainly not going to help.

        I confess I am very bad at teaching and cannot teach my children.

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        • I understand it’s not easy being a parent. I’m one myself and even though mine is still in nursery, I find it hard at times to get her to concentrate on things. But wit older children you have the benefit of obedience. And once you teach them that they ought to put thier own efforts into studying they will rise to the occasion. I’m not sending anyone on a guilt trip. But if you recall how we were taught, we didn’t have the luxury of having tutors for every subject from Primary School, that kids do have these days. We are offloading our responsibility of teaching as parents to someone else because we don’t have the time or inclination to do that. Your wife is a teacher and I’m sure she must have come across kids in her class or school who are being tutored even after school and theyre only in grade 1! Why are such kids being to toted outside of school? What are the schools doing?

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          • Mine is in Kindergarten. I agree to your point that onus is on us to develop our children and we cannot offload it to somebody else but at the same time I am against helicopter parenting and this obsessions with being a great parent . I second your thoughts on schools, my 5 year old does not get any homework which often results her in watching television and playing games on her mama’s mobile. She dare not touch her papa’s phone.

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  11. I admire any parents who conscientiously do their best in who they are, how they are, and what they say and do for their children. I take my hat off to your husband and yourself, Pradita. As for parks. We all need them. Not just kids. I would die if there were not greenery or parkland near me. We need them to rejuvenate us and remind us that we too are part of nature, not separate from it.

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    • Thank you so much Simon, though I’m not sure if I deserve such praise as yet. My journey as a parent has just begun and I’ve no idea if I’ll do it well or not. This post are my fears of what childhood in India looks like today. It’s a system that we Indians need to either deal with or get away from, because changing it doesn’t look like a possibility. Thank you once again. I hope i can be a good parent for my child.

      And you’re right about parks but unfortunately we Urban Indians seem to take them for granted. I don’t know why we need so many residential complexes that are still lying vacant because people cant buy property at such inflated rates. But we won’t fight for green areas. It’s a shame.

      Thank you for your patience wih the post and your thoughtful comment 😊

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  12. You have raised a very pertinent issue. But I believe internet, mobile phones and 24 hour satellite televisions are a modern day reality and we cannot simply wish them away. Yes number of children coming to parks have reduced drastically and there are a lot lesser number of children visiting these parks vis-a-vis our times . I have been born and brought up in Delhi but I am petrified to send my daughter to the nearest park for there might be so many preying eyes. I ensure she is in front of my eyes whenever I take her out.

    Offcourse even I feel Pune is much better except that parochial mindset of Martahi Manus which I find odious.

    As for the professional classes so many kids in my locality are going there, some are learning hoola hooping, TT, Skating , dancing, swimming and plethora of activities. I believe this is one of the best things that has happened. In our days coaching for sports was restricted only to schools as there were not many good coaches available even in a place like Delhi.
    I represented my school in Badminton and TT but could not go far, even though I had the best of equipment and money but just that culture wasn’t there. Now I find children learning so many new skills every day which is a boon for them.
    As for smart phones and TV we have to ensure that they don’t over do them.

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    • Thank you for reading Siddhartha. I too agree that emphasis on these things develops a child’s character, but please go through my write up again. I’m not against such classes IF they are restricted to a day of two in the week. Because a child, apart form 8-9 hours he spends at school, needs some time off from all the instructing too – a breather – like we need vacations and weekends. An occasional activity class is very good for them. But making those activity classes a routine like school, feels like an alternate school by itself. Give them some downtime, some space by themselves. Let them be sometimes. They’re kids, they’ll have only one childhood.

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