I never got the chance to make my own wedding vows. In our Hindu custom of marriage, the wedding vows are always dictated by the Priest himself and most of them are pretty one-sided (*rolls eyes*). So this poem is what my wedding vows would have been like.
If ever we begin this
Tryst with destiny,
Would you, my love,
Hold my hand till the very end;
Till when we become dust
And dwindle into memories?
But swear not to lead me astray,
Never waver from the right,
Nor waiver off my mistakes,
But lead me onward with steel
In our minds and faith in our hearts,
To the last hour when we as one depart.
Will you promise to lend me your ear
In times of dismay,
Or your hand when I’m going astray,
Or your shoulder when I’m weak,
Or your heart, when I your love seek?
Do you promise that your faith
In our love and me shall dwindle not
But like the roots of an aged tree
Shall suppress all contemptible thoughts?
Swear to me, beloved betrothed,
That erelong our lives have come to a close,
We will breathe as one,
Under one roof, one name
Where two would be the bodies,
But the souls shall be the same.
And when you do promise me so
Know that I promise you this and more;
That till time and memory last
My trust and love
In this sacred bond
Shall hold fast.
That nothing and no one
May tear us apart.
I’ll be by your side
In sickness and health,
Until our end has come to pass.
Copyright ©2018 Pradita Kapahi.
All rights reserved.
Image Source: NGD Photworks at Pixabay
Pradita I had learned few days back that you are a lawyer in Pune. I need some help in this regard. If you don’t mind.
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Hi. I used to be one but I’ve stopped practicing now. However feel free to contact me at praditakapahi@gmail.com. I’ll be glad if I can be is some assistance
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Hi Pradita, I have sent you a reply .
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I just sent my reply to you 🙂
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Pradita I replied to you with as many facts I could have mentioned..
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Thanks. I’ll check it out now
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This makes me curious, was your marriage love or arranged?
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😂 😂 😂 love. Why?
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No reason. I was just curious.
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😂 😂 😂 😂
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Wow 💜
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Thanks babe 🙂
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This is so beautiful Pradita!!! Only if I was not married, I would have used this piece as my wedding Vows… obviously with due credit to you!
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HAHA. Same here Aditi. Thank you 🙂
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I agree with you Aditi … I would have done that too…. But I got married when Pradita was in school… 😛
What were you doing Pradita in 2004 December?
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😂 😂 😂 I was in second year of college 😬
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Oh good… Why were you not little older to write a vow that time? :p
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Dunno 😂
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He He He… Delete my two bogus extra comments na…
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Alright Dada.
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Aiyo… Kya delete kardi mere behen ne… 😦
Sorry, it’s all my fault… You must be busy and I kept bugging you and you deleted my main comment… :p
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Oh god. So sorry ☹️
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No issues… :p
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Oh yes… u r an old man!!! 😝😛
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Shhhh! Don’t tell anyone else… Aditi. Hehehehe
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Hhahahhaah….. welll…. life begins at 40… so u are still a toddler 😉
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Some say, “People get naughty after forty”. 😉
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Well… do they really wait to turn 40? 🤔😆
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Hahaha… Point to be noted… Wakil Sahiba Kahan gayi? Pradita!!!!
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😀 😀 😀
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Delete this – “delete request comment” and delete the first comment where husband/wife is there… 😛
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Thank you so much Dada. The main intent of the viws I suppose will always remain the same. Even in Hindu marriages the vows are similar. But yes, I would like them to be more gender neutral. Haha. I hope the pastor doesnt take offence to my poem 😁
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Yes, you are right… But the vows for both are similar… irrespective of gender… I didn’t mark which part you are pointing it out… Can you guide me The Lawyer ? (Note: I am not making fun of the profession or you… just teasing you)
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No in Hindu marriages it’s something like the wife will follow the husband and do as he pleases and be by his side and all. Everything almost the woman only has to view while the guy is just kidding his head. And then I had to touch my husband’s feet too. I mean wtf!
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Hahahaha! Shhhhhhhhh! Dada ke saamne slangs? Sharm karo kuch tho behna… :p
Vows in Christian marriages are similar for both husss-band and wi-fi :p AND give me a break… No touching of feet…
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I’m telling you the truth. I had to touch his feet. Even my saas was telling me this was antiquated 😂
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I know you told the truth dear…
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that is one long wedding vow! or should I say vows :p
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Hee hee… Well now you know what you can say to your wife 😉
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I’ll try and keep it short n sweet Pradita…I mean I woukd have to memoir it right…so shorter the better. Short and crisp is what I’m thinking, lest I forget my lines.. 😉
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You could always hold a paper in front of you 😝 But of course the lesser promises the better 😂
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Beautiful!
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Thanks 🙂
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Lovely. I was fascinated by your comment about the Hindu marriage vows. We have western-Christian formulaic ones. But often encourage couples to think about what they mean for them. Although the public vows are the ones spoken, the couple often how a sense of the other words behind the words.
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Thanks Simon. Yes, here among us Hindus, we still stick to the old notion of the wife being subordinate to the husband so the vows are mostly such that dictate to a wife what she ought to do. I’m not exaggerating. Our own vows is not something every Hindu couple does when they are getting married. Its nice to know that people in your part of the world have the religious freedom to make their own vows. Thanks, as always, for reading and commenting 🙂
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